Wellness Coaching Session #12

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You made it! This is our last mini-coaching session! If you completed the sessions and the exercises provided, I hope you are feeling better about the goals you want to achieve. You can check your progress with the Wellness Wheel.

Your coaching experience doesn't have to end here! Use this 5-question document to learn if Wellness Coaching is right for you.

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #11

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This week we continued talking about using a storyboarding concept to help you continue working on your wellness vision. Here's the link the storyboarding exercise described in the video.

Next week is the last session, so we'll be wrapping things up! See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #10

If you follow me on YouTube, you can see my new video! I'm offering a series of Wellness Coaching sessions to help you reach your goals. Now, you can see how Wellness Coaching might be able to help you - for free!

This week we talked about using a storyboarding concept to help you continue working on your wellness vision. Here's the link the storyboarding exercise described in the video.

Next week, we'll be talking more about storyboarding to help you complete your first goal! See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #8

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This week we talked about your Wellness Vision and putting your words into action. You can find the 10 Questions I described in the video here.

Next week, we'll be talking about taking steps to complete your first goal! See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #7

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This week we talked about the habit-forming exercise from last week's video. What are the three new habits you decided to create?

We also talked about how you can create your own personal wellness vision! You can find more information about creating your wellness vision here!

Next week, we'll be bringing your wellness vision to life by putting your words into action! See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #6

If you follow me on YouTube, you can see my new video! I'm offering a series of Wellness Coaching sessions to help you reach your goals. Now, you can see how Wellness Coaching might be able to help you - for free!

This week we talked about the personal values survey from last week's video. Did you think this was an easy or difficult exercise?

We also started taking action on how you can form new habits. You can find the habit-forming exercise here.

Next week, we'll be talking about creating your wellness vision. See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #4

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This week we talked about the decluttering exercise from last week's video. Not only can it be beneficial to declutter your space, but also to declutter your mind! Here's the exercise referenced in the video.

We also discussed building on your strengths to help you achieve your goals. This week's exercise is one of my favorites! Let me know what you think about it!

Next week, we'll be talking about how your personal values relate to your goals. See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #3

If you follow me on YouTube, you can see my new video! I'm offering a series of Wellness Coaching sessions to help you reach your goals. Now, you can see how Wellness Coaching might be able to help you - for free!

This week we talked about decluttering. Not only can it be beneficial to declutter your space, but also to declutter your mind! Here's the exercise referenced in the video.

We also discussed the results of the motivation quiz from the Session 2 video discussion. Let me know if you have questions about your results.

Next week, we'll be talking about using your strengths to accomplish your goals. See you then!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #2

If you follow me on YouTube, you can see my new video! I'm offering a series of Wellness Coaching sessions to help you reach your goals! Now, you can see how Wellness Coaching might be able to help you - for free!

This week we talked about how your first session might go. Here is the coaching agreement we discussed. We also talked about how you're feeling about your motivation level. Here is the motivation quiz for this week's activity. We'll go over the results next week.

If you watched the first video, you know that we talked about completing the Wellness Wheel. This exercise can help you determine where you are right now and where you want to be. This exercise can also help you decide what goals you might want to work on first. Here's a link to the Wellness Wheel document, so you can fill it out yourself!

Have a great week!

Wellness Coaching Session #1

If you follow me on YouTube, you can see my new video! I'm offering a series of Wellness Coaching sessions to help you reach your goals! Now, you can see how Wellness Coaching might be able to help you - for free!

If you watched the first video, you know that we talked about completing the Wellness Wheel. This exercise can help you determine where you are right now and where you want to be. This exercise can also help you decide what goals you might want to work on first. Here's a link to the Wellness Wheel document, so you can fill it out yourself!

My "school nerd" ways at the 2015 National Wellness Conference

In January, I created my 2015 vision board, which included this image:

Last week, I made that vision come true! I attended the 40th Annual National Wellness Conference for the first time. I was so excited to attend, yet I had no idea what to expect when I arrived. 

The conference took place at the University of Minnesota, which lucky for me, is only a few miles from my home. I was amazed to learn that people traveled from all over the U.S. to attend this conference as well as South Africa, India and Australia. Amazing!

When I first walked in to receive my registration materials, I was so excited. The staff was helpful and I received a bunch of great swag from the sponsors of the event. My favorite item was provided by Real Balance. It was a journal to use for the week to document my conference notes, as well as room to write about my nutritional and mental well-being throughout the week. 

After registration, I headed over to the expo. It was packed full of people and vendors. The amount of wellness talent that surrounded me was both exciting and intimidating since I'm fairly new to coaching. I didn't know where to begin, but then I ran into one of my instructors from my Mayo Clinic wellness coaching course. Catching up with her helped my excitement overcome my feelings of intimidation!

The conference began with a keynote speaker and "motivation scientist", Dr. Michelle Segar, which took place in this large auditorium:

[Note: the following story has nothing to do with the conference content, yet I must share it!] 

One thing you may not know about me is that I'm a huge school nerd. My best friend and I (obnoxiously?) sat in the front row of our college French course. We always answered questions and received "A's". I did the same in some of my other courses as well. And, I've taken that habit with me throughout life as I've attended other classes and training sessions. This day was no exception. I sat in the center section in the very front row. And, no one joined me! As a side note, this was a fascinating social encounter, especially with such a large group of people that specialize in connecting with other people for a living! Not only was I the only one in the front row, but there were hardly any people in the first few rows. Everyone piled in the back. Luckily, the host asked everyone to move forward and all was well.

Moving back to Dr. Michelle Segar! She beautifully consolidated 20 years of research on motivation into an hour and a half of genius. My biggest takeaway was her strategies to help people find their "why". That is the starting point of reaching success with any goal!

Following Dr. Segar, I attended three breakout sessions. (And, yes, I sat in the front row for each session!) Here are the highlights:

• Susan Wilson, CWP, and Sandhya Rajagopal discussed Styles of Communication. I learned about different ways of communicating and which style I use. You can find out with a simple 10-question quiz that's very enlightening. 
• If you want to take the quiz, reach out to me and I'll send it to you.

• I really enjoyed the opportunity to hear Joshua Steinfeldt, PCC, CMC, CWHC, CEC because he's at the University of Pennsylvania attending courses with the founder of Positive Psychology, Dr. Martin Seligman *bows*. He's also had the opportunity to work with Dr. Arloski, who I'll discuss shortly. Steinfeldt's discussion focused on lonlieness. His stats were fascinating and solidified my choice to pursue wellness coaching:

• 25% of people say they don't have someone they can share a personal problem with.
• In 1980, 20% of people felt lonely. In 2010, that number moved to 40%.

• The fact that this group is so large - it's staggering. He taught us about coaching to create a connection with people and creating a space to help people overcome loneliness. 
• The activity that Steinfeldt asked us to do was also staggering. I'll share it with you. If you do this activity, please send me an email or private message and let me know your results. I'd love to discuss this with you!

1. Write down the people who you consider "high-quality" connections in your life. These are people who are always available to you. It's 3 a.m. and you can freely call them to bear your emotions.
2. Who is on your list?
3. What are the themes or patterns?
4. Who's not on your list?
5. What surprised you?

• The last session I attended was exciting because I was able to meet and work with Michael Arloski, PhD, PPC, CWP. I've read his book, Wellness Coaching for Lasting Lifestyle Change, and it's been very helpful to me. During his session, I was able to do a practice coaching session with a member of his team. She really gave me a run for my money! It was a challenging "session". I talked with Dr. Arloski afterwards and thanked him for his contributions to my learnings. It was a fabulous day!

If you want to reach out to me about these exercises, feel free to email me at mindovermayo@hotmail.com or send me a private message via my Facebook page, Mind Over Mayo Wellness Coaching.

My advice isn't worth anything!

I started my weight-loss “journey” on Jan. 5, 2004. I reached my weight goal, learned new activities, led Weight Watchers meetings and became a Certified Personal Trainer. I reached a point where I had learned and changed so much. People asked for my advice a lot. And, I gave it to them. It even prompted me to write a book a few years back. I have written a whole entire book. Done. But, it’s full of MY advice. What worked for ME. Not what works for you or motivates you to change. It will likely remain unread on my flash drive forever. 

I finally realized that my advice wasn’t going to get anybody anywhere. There are zillions of people out there who’ve lost weight successfully and know about nutrition, health, workouts, etc. You can read any book you want about other people’s advice on these topics. But, it won’t necessarily work for you. I love this article because it explains why not everyone is an expert. For example, "I don't think someone who has been a passenger on a plane is automatically a credible source about how to fly one. I don't think anyone who has driven over a suspension bridge necessarily knows how best to build one. I don't think someone treated once by a neurosurgeon gets to offer expert commentary on the nuances of brain surgery."

This is why I decided to get into coaching. I love coaching because the focus is on YOU. I’m not the expert on you. I get to be a part of helping people create their own goals and succeed at them because they are making the rules. Not me. This change of perspective has been wonderful beyond words. Coaching isn’t a “thing” you do or buy or a pill you take – it’s an experience.

Do you know how a coach can help you? This is a great description from the Mayo Clinic where I was certified as a Wellness Coach: "Wellness coaches are experts in establishing relationships and practicing core coaching skills that assist the individual in identifying values and desires, transforming them into action, and maintaining lasting change over time. They partner in dynamic collaboration with individuals, respecting the client as the expert in his/her own life, using a strength-based focus and strong grounding in best practice." - Mayo Clinic   

I also enjoy this story from Dr. Michael Arloski that describes the relationship between a coach and a client: 

Mountain guides do not climb mountains for people. Nothing is accomplished, really if you hire me as your mountain guide and pay me merely to plant your flag on the summit while you sip martinis and observe me through a telescope down at the lodge.

As your guide, I help you plan the climb. We assess your readiness for the climb, examine what you have and what you need in equipment and resources. Together we determine a route to take. We plan how long the journey will take and allow for elements we can’t control, be it the weather or a family crisis. We examine what your personal goals are. Are you a peak-bagger, or more into the sheer experience of the high country? We get clear on what a successful and fulfilling climb will be for you.

Mountain guides do not make people climb mountains. The motivation for the climb has to be within the climber. During times of discouragement I may lend support, or even challenge you to reach a little deeper for strength I know you have. I also know that your chances of success are far greater if your motivation is internal. You WANT to climb this mountain! You are excited about it, and you anticipate that the journey will in itself be a large part of the pleasure of the experience. It works best when it is not fear-based motivation. You are not climbing the mountain because you are afraid what will happen if you don’t!

Most importantly, your chances of success are far greater just because you aren’t doing it alone. Knowing that I am there with you on the journey shifts your entire mental approach. You push through the temptation to turn back prematurely (as you may have done so often in the past) as you look over at me climbing beside you. You know I will hold you accountable to yourself to do what you said you have come to do. You also know that you retain your freedom, and if you choose to turn back you will not be criticized for it. When we do summit, it is your flag that is planted, not mine, for this was your journey. It was you and the mountain. Your coach was like a good solid rope – a support.  Wellness Coaching for Lasting Lifestyle Change – Michael Arloski, PhD, PCC

Is coaching for you? It may or may not be. 6 Signs You Need A Coach If you want to find out, feel free to reach out to me.

I did it! I'm a Certified Wellness Coach!

I really had no idea what to expect when I applied to the Mayo Clinic graduate school for their Wellness Coaching certification course. It was late in 2012 and I had just completed my Personal Trainer certification. I knew I wanted something more - skills that would help me motivate people instead of just handing them a plan. When I read about the extensive curriculum the Mayo offered for certification, I was convinced it was right for me. I applied immediately - and three months later I was accepted into their July 2014 course. WHAT?! I learned that they only accept 120 students per year. Hence, the lengthy waiting list. 

Perseverance and pestering will get you everywhere. I begged Mayo to give me a spot earlier if it became available and I stayed on them about it. (Tammy in Admissions - you are wonderful!!) I was offered a spot for the second quarter course beginning in April 2014 and I snapped it up!

I anticipated what the class would be like since most of it would be conducted online. I went to college in the mid-90s, so this way of teaching was completely foreign to me. My first assignment was a simple introduction post in Blackboard about my background and why I wanted to take this course. One of the things I wrote was, " I want to get to the core of why people behave they way they do and teach them how they truly can change to be well." 

But, I had it all wrong. I wrote the word "teach". The most valuable thing I learned from this course is that I'm not going to teach anybody anything. Coaching isn't teaching. Coaching is listening. Coaching is support. Coaching is empathy. Coaching is encouragement. 

Coaching isn't therapy, coaching isn't imposing judgment and coaching isn't teaching. Teaching is providing answers. But, you already have the answers. You are the expert on you. I can't teach you about you. But, I've spent hours upon hours to get here. To the place where I can work with you to become the "you" you want to be. The best you.

I can't even begin to say enough good things about my experience at Mayo Clinic. My third week of class took place on-site at Mayo Clinic. They are days I will never forget! I was in a room of 14 like-minded people with fascinating experiences and stories to share. I was exhilarated, yet exhausted, from the precious time I spent learning from Mayo Clinic doctors and Wellness Coaches who had been practicing and improving coaching methods for years. I was able to participate in a peer coaching group with classmates for several weeks, so I could gain as much knowledge and practice as possible. This was when I realized I could be really good at coaching. This is for me!

People ask me:

• What does Wellness Coaching mean?
• Are you going to provide me with weight loss and dieting advice like recipes and meal plans?
• Am I going to have to get on a scale in front of you?
• Are you going to set strict goals for me?
• Are you going to be upset or make me feel guilty when I don't do what you say?

Now, it's my goal to change the perception of coaching and help others understand what I can do to help. And, why the course content I learned at the Mayo Clinic is so incredibly valuable. I've been practicing with class peers and volunteer clients and I'm so excited about the results people are experiencing. 

I won't make you get on a scale in front of me, or set your goals for you or give you unsolicited advice and pamphlets. I definitely won't judge you for your actions or make you feel guilty.  

In fact, I decided to see a Wellness Coach myself during my learning process - one that was not affiliated with the Mayo Clinic. I wanted to see how she practiced compared to what I was learning. This is when I realized how right the Mayo got this curriculum. I saw my "coach" (incognito, of course) about four or five times. She usually did most of the talking instead of listening. I always left with a stack of pamphlets - some of which I told her were on subjects that weren't a concern of mine. She didn't hear me at all. She didn't dig deep or spend the time to find what motivated me. She didn't personalize our appointments. She just gave me blanket advice - pretty much information I could Google.

So, that's how I knew I could make a difference. It's my mission to help people become their best selves and maintain lasting change over time. I partner with people on what their goals are - not mine. It can be anything you want to change - eating habits, physical fitness, stress management. With what I’ve learned and practiced over the last several months:

• I’m able to help people see themselves more clearly.
• I can identify gaps between where someone is and where they want to be.
• I’ve built a structure, I have useful tools and I can provide support in a safe environment necessary to help people sustain their commitment over time.
• I will ask for more change, more intentional thought and more action than you will ask of yourself. But, this is done according to the client’s agenda.

Thank you for following along with me in 2014 and have a fabulous holiday season! I'm looking forward to sharing a broader scope of Mind Over Mayo in 2015!

Six Tips to Surviving the Next Six Weeks (even if you are over-booked, over-stressed, tempted by treats and your family get-togethers drive you to the Bailey’s)

That may be my longest blog post title yet, however I feel it’s warranted given the madness of this topic. I’m starting to see the “survive the holidays” tips all over social media and talked a bit about it in Renee’s blog earlier today. Given this is a wellness blog, I thought I’d add some points that I actually use in real life. I want to be realistic and less obvious/annoying as some of the other “tip” articles out there!

Weight-wise, my most successful holiday season was last year. I got a horrible stomach flu a few days before Christmas, so I barely ate a thing. My worst year was 2010. A project at work went awry the week of Thanksgiving. I worked days/nights/weekends up until Christmas and didn’t take care of myself at all. Once Christmas came, I was able to take two weeks off of work – and I ate and drank my way through them.

Let’s find a happy medium, shall we? Here’s what’s worked for me and what I plan to do this year.

1) Don’t take home leftovers or keep tempting food in the house. If you bake or cook, it has to go elsewhere.

2) Celebrate on the holiday only. The holiday is ONE day out of the week. Enjoy the treats and foods as much as you want to on that one day. Don’t extend Thanksgiving into a four-day food festival or a Christmas through New Year’s Day eat-a-thon.

3) Stay busy. I know many folks take 1-2 weeks off of work at the end of the year because of travel or to be with family. For me, that doesn’t work. I can’t justify taking that much time off of work in the middle of winter. It will be me and the food stuck inside hiding from the freezing cold. I will work or make active plans Dec. 26-Jan. 4 to keep me in my daily routine.

4) Make compromises. “It only comes once a year.” “I never get to eat/drink such-n-such.” “If I don’t eat this, it will hurt someone’s feelings.” “I’ve ruined my diet now – I’ll start again after the 1^st.” And, it goes on.

•            It does only come once a year, but it doesn’t need to be a free-for-all. Make compromises and consciously choose foods that you enjoy versus standing in the kitchen and grazing all day. For example, “I’m going to CONSCIOUSLY have two pieces of Aunt Linda’s fudge instead of 3.” Choose what you really want and enjoy it! (And, I highly recommend my Aunt Linda’s fudge. It’s phenomenal!!!)
•       Jan. 1 falls on a Thursday. You’re likely not going to “start again” on a Thursday. You’ll probably wait until the following Monday because that’s how we typically handle stuff like this. More days toward your goals will be lost. Seriously – try going to the gym on Christmas Eve morning. You’ll be so proud of yourself the rest of the day!

5) Write your 2015 goals NOW. Don’t wait until the post-holiday guilt has set in to write your absurd “I’m only eating vegetables and I’m going to the gym EVERY DAY” goals. Try writing your 2015 goals (realistically) now so you can keep them in mind over the next several weeks. When Jan. 1 comes, you’ll be ready for it.

6) Forgiveness. Enjoy your family and friends. Enjoy your treats. What’s done is done. Feeling guilt over yesterday doesn’t fix it. Let go of guilt and do better today.

On a personal note, it’s been a while since I’ve written in this blog. I focused on myself in 2014 – adjusting to a new job, a new home, loss of family members and learning the art of Wellness Coaching. I’m excited to broaden the Mind Over Mayo name and capabilities in 2015!

Happy Thanksgiving!

2014 Goal-Setting and Vision Board

This week I committed to working on two small goals:  1) set my goals for 2014 and 2) carry water with me where ever I go.

I was successful with the water, in part because I usually do this anyway.  I just needed a post-holiday boost to get me back in the swing of the habit.  I added things like cucumber and lemon to my water to make it more flavorful.

For my goals, I did a couple of things.  I updated my vision board and made a list of things I want to do more of in the coming year.  If you aren't sure what a vision board (or dream board) is, they are easy to create.  I try to look at mine often, particularly in low moments, so I can keep my goals top-of -mind.  Go here to create your own.

Here's my 2014 vision board:



It's similar to last year's, but I updated a few things.  I'll be attending a course at the Mayo Clinic about Wellness Coaching this year, so I incorporated that.  Also, one of the things I accomplished from last year's board is moving to a larger city/urban area.  At the time, I envisioned Phoenix or Chicago.  But, I ended up staying in Minnesota - just moving from the suburbs to the city.  So, I incorporated photos taken near my home such as trails and the Mississippi River that I plan to take advantage of this summer.  And, that is a picture of my actual pool/hot tub at my new home, so I need to be bathing suit ready to take advantage of that as well! 

I'm still focused on eating healthy, so I incorporated a picture of the farmer's market near my home and demonstrated my focus on WATER!  And, I'd like to continue working on lifting heavy, practicing piano and creative writing in my free time.  Lastly, I always like to travel, especially finding a warm sanction during the long winter.  This year I'll be traveling to Fort Myers, FL and I've never been.  Here's my 2013 board for comparison:



Happy 2014!